Fear can be a useful emotion, especially if you interpret it as your inner wisdom trying to offer you a message. However, sometimes fear can become negative stress, and negative stress does not fuel the body well.
Reader question: I tend to just jump from something I’m focusing on to another, and I think that is from fear of trying to dig in deeper. I’m wondering if there’s a great way to tune my mind for less stress and disarray/disorganization…
Here is how I answered; hope you find it useful food for thought in conquering any fear that impedes your focus: That’s a big question, but yes I have some thoughts for you to consider. Since I do not know your specific situation, as you read through, focus most on the points that resonates with you.
When you notice yourself getting distracted, one thing you may want to consider is taking a big breathe. Put one hand on your belly and one on your heart and breath into both hands. Focus on connecting with yourself. From that connected place, ask yourself in a non-judging way why you are considering switching gears.Ask yourself if it is possible to put the “new” thing on a list or schedule to do in the future and if you can stay with the current. Ask yourself probing questions from a place of genuine curiosity and try to withhold judgement. Ask yourself if you are afraid of something. Ask yourself if you are afraid of failure or success with the current project. What is the worst that can happen if you fail or succeed with the current project you are working on?
Focus your attention on your fear and get really conscious. Is your fear a useful warning from your unconscious mind to your conscious mind that where you are focusing your attention is not serving your greatest good? Or is your fear an unconscious pattern that no longer serves you? You’ll need to acknowledge how you are truly feeling (even the uncomfortable feelings like the natural human tendency to fear failure or rejection). Once your thoughts are brought into the light of day, you can use logic and conscious decision making about what to do next.
The other thing you may want to consider is a daily or weekly check list. What are the actions or activities that you want to do each day (or each week) that reaffirm for you that you are the person you want to be and you are moving in the right direction based on your conscious choices. They don’t have to be big giant decisions– it can be as simple as the choice to floss your teeth every day for 30 days, or the choice to eat vegetables 3 times a week for the next month. Or it can be as big as committing to a particular business opportunity and mapping out the actions you’ll need to get there. In general, it works well to start with smaller tasks that you are sure you can check off. Build that completion muscle. Stay outcome focused and conscious!
Wishing you all the best on your journey towards mind-like-water!! Keep me posted on how you are doing.