Do you ever speak to your body with unkind words? Have you ever tried to squeeze into a pair of jeans that no longer fit and get angry with your body and call it disgusting?
When I hear people speaking to their human vehicles with unkind words, I notice; and, unfortunately, what I have noticed is that it happens a lot. If you speak unkindly to your body, you are not alone, you are not a bad person, and I hope this article does not shame you—I hope it awakens you to the power of your self-talk.
What if I told you that your body was a sentient being and experiences the harshness of your self-talk?
Would you speak to yourself differently?
Do you love animals? If you do, think about the type of behavior you would expect an animal to exhibit if he or she has been on the receiving end of mean-talk.
Do you love babies and children? What if you heard a teacher telling a child that you love, that he or she is disgusting? How would you feel? How do you think the child would feel? What type of behavior might you expect to show up later in a child that has been told by an influencing figure in their life that they are disgusting?
We know not to speak to our neighbors and co-workers with mean language, yet, some of us feel that name-calling ourselves and our vibrant human vehicles is an appropriate motivation technique. That somehow if we say enough unkind things to our bodies, that they will shrink up and the fat will melt off.
Are you ready to believe that there may be a better approach?
If you are in the habit (either consciously or unconsciously) of speaking to your body with mean-talk, would you be willing to try something new? I would like to encourage you to spend the next 30 days training yourself to be more conscious with the way you speak to yourself.
Take the Challenge. Here is everything you need. The rest is up to you.
The challenge consists of 5 simple suggestions. I know simple does not mean easy, but I also know you can do it if you choose to go for it.
1. Be more aware of your self talk
It’s that simple. Notice your words for 30 days.
2. If you notice self-mean-talk, apologize to your body immediately
As soon as you catch yourself, apologize. Be transparent with your body. If you are in private, you may want to have an actual conversation with your body and explain that you are doing this 30-day challenge and why.
3. On day 3, bring it up a notch and figure out something you appreciate about your body.
Take a moment or more to think about what your body can do that you are grateful for. Can you operate a computer with your hands? Can you walk? Are you mobile? Those are certainly some things to celebrate and appreciate. Your human vehicle is your mode of transportation for this entire lifetime, that’s pretty awesome and perhaps even merits a thank you? What do you think? Are you willing to think of one nice thing to say to your body?
4. From day 5- day 30 say something kind to your body every day
You can think your kind statement, write it down, or look in the mirror and say it out loud. You can say the same thing every day, you can rotate between a few phrases, or you can say something new each day.
Since your body is physically connected to your mind—you are going to have to mean it, or you body will know you are being false.
5. Last step. Start to explore the disconnect.
At some point during this 30-day challenge, get curious with yourself and begin to explore the reasons that you were so frustrated with your body in the first place.
In the past (before this challenge), you may not have communicated your feelings to your body as effectively as you are communicating them now, but you did have reasons for your frustration. What were they? Is it something that can be resolved? Can you create a plan and put yourself on a path towards greater harmony with your human vehicle?
If you would like some illumination on the path, you may enjoy our Busy Woman’s Guidebook to Vibrant Vitality, which you can find in the Fuel the Body Well Store. The guidebook teaches you how to enhance your connection with your human vehicle to gain access to the wisdom and power that is already within you.
There are many paths you can take, and it does not have to be with us. The important thing is that you are good to yourself.