In our society, some forms of loss are collectively agreed upon to “merit” mourning. The social norms guide us what to do. We bring flowers or meals. We offer words of prayer.
However, sometimes our life circumstances present us with an experience that brings us to our knees in the same way that an “acknowledged” loss might, but we don’t have the validating social cues around us to remind us to mourn.
If we are able to muster up the self-compassion, what we can do is give ourselves our own love. We can aim to be gentle with ourselves and all the many reactions we may have. And hopefully, we eventually conclude that whether or not we think we want to or are ready to take this journey, we have in fact embarked on an important life-adventure.
Like it or not, our life is changed. The choice of how we navigate it is up to us.
I’ll be writing more about navigating unexpected transition on my creative writing blog. Here’s the link to the section on transition rituals.
Should you find yourself in this challenging life-phase, I wish you self-compassion on the journey. It’s not always easy, but as best you can remember, reach for your Fuel Drops to nourish yourself along the way.
With love and wishes for abundant wellness,