Remember when we were in Elementary School and Valentine’s cards were for everyone in the class?
How great did that feel?
But somewhere on our life journey between grade school and now, we’ve been offered new messages about what February 14th is all about.
Rather than fueling up on abundant well-wishes from all of our classmates, we are bombarded by messages that invite us to fuel ourselves in other ways.
And on top of that, sometimes at this time of year, we are exposed to expectations by the media that are intended to lead us into a buy-mode instead of a self-love mode.
If you are up for it, notice the outside messages we are exposed to. Notice what messages are fueling, and notice what messages are not. The process of choosing how we fuel our bodies often starts long before we are making decisions about what to eat or drink.
Advertisements sometimes aim to tap into our very human desire to be loved and our equally human fears of not being worthy of that love. Not always, but sometimes, they deliberately stir up those feeling and then they offer whatever it is that they are selling as the “solution” for resolving those uncomfortable feelings that they just stirred up.
3 Practical Tips for avoiding a Valentine’s sugar bender
Since the days leading up to Valentine’s Day tend to be filled with non-fueling outside messages, here are 3 practical tips for avoiding a Valentine’s sugar bender
- Notice the upstream messages
Let’s stay aware of the messages we are exposed to and notice how they make us feel. When we stay aware, we can remind ourselves that WE can be the ones that tell us what is IMPORTANT to US (not some outside message).
- Remember that giving love to everyone feels great
Just like when we gave cards to everyone in the classroom when we were little, consider giving everyone you pass a smile and notice how great that feels.
- Be mindful when you are turning to sugar (or pastries, or chocolate, etc) for something sugar can’t fill
When we eat because we are hungry, we eventually get full and stop eating. However, when we eat to fill something that food can’t fill, we never quite reach that satiated feeling.If an outside message happens to get inside you and you can’t quite shake it, you may be left feeling temporarily uncomfortable. If that happens, notice it, and do your best to focus on positive messages to bring you back in the direction of feeling more comfortable and self-connected.
Wishing you lots and lots of self-love this Valentine’s season. May you fuel yourself with the things that bring you the most joy and vitality!!
And just in case you need it… here’s an article that may come in handy:
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